We went to Iceland

Wednesday, October 25, 2017


Iceland was such a chill fun trip. You can drive your car right up to so many of the historical landmarks that it makes it so easy. We loved it so much and can't wait to head back there during the winter at some point for the Northern Lights. We essentially followed Katilda's recommendations so if you are planning a trip check out her blog post here.

Editing video and images is the hardest part about coming home from a trip. Digging through my old hard drive is inspiring me to finally learn lightroom and edit everything. I've go so much in the archives and it's coming! I've been so fortunate to travel so many places and now I need to work on getting the memories accessible for remembering.

Dallas Eats // Toulhouse Cafe

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

This place made me feel like I was in a French Cafe in Paris. We got to sit on the patio in the most glorious weather and just enjoy the evening. I also felt like they had a European attitude towards dining... so relaxed and fun! Would highly recommend this place.

Here's the Sitch:
Place: Toulouse Cafe
Order: We started the meal delicious cheese pastry, Petite Gougére. Then to make it totally french we had to get Escargots & Goat Cheese Salad as an appetizer. For dinner, Crispy Duck Two Ways (seated breast and duck confit) and Sautéed Diver Scallops. Finally profiteroles and soufflé made for a wonderful evening. Our tab came out to over $100.
Atmosphere: Loved the outdoor seating and charming Patio.
With: Michael
Rating: 5/5


Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Just like that 27 is gone and today I am 28. This year has been a year. Let’s recap with a few noteworthy things:

I am in a band. A duo. Whatever you want to call it. Kylie told me that I have to learn an instrument this year so we can actually call ourselves that. It has been both challenging and rewarding. We write songs and have actually been paid to play them. This is one of my biggest dreams. I actually wrote in my journal in 2016 that my biggest dream was to be in a band and here we are. I am in a band. Plus, I got a new friend out of it. So that’s pretty cool. Maybe 28 is the year of the EP? I hope so.

I got a new job. I left working on Chili’s for a different agency working on Pier 1. I really like the challenge of retail and it has been an excellent move for both my mental and physical health. Hello in office gym that I love.

I decided to start going to therapy. WHAT A FREAKING GAME CHANGER. Learn about setting and keeping boundaries, how to actually feel things, and accept myself where I am in this very moment. The journey will continue but if the progress I have made in one year is any indicator of what is to come, I am super excited about it.

Things I love: Bai Bubbles – Lambari Watermelon. Michael. Instagram. Overcoats. The Good Place. Madewell. Penny & Dime.
Things I hate: Being hot.
Most frequent question: “Who is the Penny & who is the dime?”
Normal Day: Wake up around 7:15, get to work before 8:30am (or I am late and they charge me 8.63!), work, eat, exercise, work, home, dinner, tv, read, bed.
Everyday Shoes: Birkenstocks, but a new pair in black.
Fave Outfit: Leggings with an oversized mens t-shirt. NAKED CAT SHIRT.
Travel: Denmark. Phoenix. Utah. Los Angeles.

Now onto 28.

P.S. I did this list for 26 and it was fun so I am bringing it back.
P.S.S. Ten points to whoever can spot Michael in the above picture.

Photo by Jovanna De La Peña Joyner

6th Year Anniversary Photos

These photos were a dream. They were taken by my dear friend Jovanna around our neighborhood and in our apartment. Basically year 6 was really good to us. We saw at lot of progress as a couple and that was pretty cool. Life is good and we are happy a majority of the time. What else could you ask for?

On Time

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Humans have wanted to remember since the beginning of time. They remembered on walls with drawings. They remembered on words with paper. And now most often today they remember with images. Thousands of them. Stored in clouds, phones and hard drives. I was driving down a busy street and I counted 10+ people capturing images of the mundane on their phones. No weddings or significant events, just pictures of friends in front of buildings. Kids playing in a fountain. A glass of wine at dinner.

So why? What’s the human desire behind remembering?

For me it boils down to this, time is the only thing in life that we can’t get more of. It can never be increased which drives the notion of scarcity. You will never have more time than you do right now. The last minute you spent reading this article is something you will never have again. Ever. Time is constant and fleeting.

It is amazing how at odds we are internally. We are constantly waiting, hoping and searching for the future. I’ll be happy when. I’ll be happy if. Future future future. At the same time this narrative plays out, we cling to each moment (obsessed over capturing it perfectly) while simultaneously wishing to throw it away for a better future. A different newer moment where we will finally be fulfilled.

Photos, words, drawings are attempts to freeze time, even if it devalues the present time by going back. I feel the pull and desire to remember almost greater than I do to insert myself in the present moment. In the now-ness of life. Because if I don’t take a picture or write about it, maybe I will forget, and then maybe my fleeting life will have been just that, fleeting.

If we go back to remember and we go forward to hope, what are we going to do now?

Photo by Jovanna De La Peña Joyner

Michael rapped and it was everything

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Michael used to be a rapper back in the day. Our friends played his CD for me on our first date and it was over. I was totally infatuated. Last week I saw him perform live for the first time and I am still not over it. Why did we wait so long! I think I have watched this video 100+ times.

How to Find Cheap Airline Tickets

Saturday, June 24, 2017

I spend a lot of time obsessively checking all things travel related. Lately there have been so many amazing flight deals popping up on my radar that I want to go on a new trip every week. I was talking with some coworkers today and apparently not everyone is like this and they were interested in what methods I used, I typed them up and sent and email, but figured maybe a blog post would be helpful for everyone else.

These are the websites and practices that I subscribe to when looking for airfare:

https://www.skyscanner.net/ - Skyscanner can be used to sign up for alerts if you don’t really care where you are going, but know the dates you want to travel. This site will send you all the deals from the airport you are flying out of to multiple domestic and international destinations.

https://www.hipmunk.com/ - I use this website for specific dates and specific destinations. You can set up an email alert and it will notify you when the prices for that flight and time increase or decrease. As soon as I know I need to go somewhere I set this up and buy when the price is lowest. I have saved lots of money using this.

https://cheapdfw.com/ - This one is Dallas Specific but I would check and see if there is something similar for your local airport. You can sign up for alerts and it will email you deals from Dallas all over the world. For examples, it emailed me yesterday and said there are $420 tickets to Paris AND Barcelona yesterday. WHAT?!

Overall all I have found that the best time for domestic flight tends to be around 6 weeks out, give or take a week, with the exception of peak travel time like Thanksgiving. For international flights the best time tends to be 3-6 months out, which is a large window, but same caveat applies here if it is peak travel, like summer or Christmas. The same can be said for international travel that there can be amazing last minute deals if you don't have a specific destination in mind so sign up for skyscanner above and see what pops!

And that is my advice. Let me know if you have any questions and happy travels!

You are allowed to want things

Friday, May 26, 2017

I have been thinking about the idea of wanting. The idea that so often in life we have moments where we think, "If would be cool if..." and then somehow before the thought is even fully formed we talk ourselves out of it.

It would be cool if I started an Etsy shop.
No one will buy anything.

It would be cool if I wrote a song.
Everyone would hate it.

It would be cool if I started a podcast.
No one will listen.

There are so many things in life that we have the capacity and potential to do. You are capable of so much more than you can probably even imagine, but in order to get there, you have to overcome your number one critic, yourself.

My experience has been that I project my fears onto other people. I assume that everyone will be as critical of me as I am and the reality is this: in everything I pursue the response is generally the exact opposite of what I think it will be. Good people want to support you. Good people want you to thrive. Good people want you to go after what you want.

Maybe you feel like what you want isn't rational, or doesn't make financial sense, or is a waste of time. But guess what, YOU ARE ALLOWED TO WANT IT.

It doesn't matter if other people think it is dumb. It doesn't matter if logically you can talk yourself out of it. If there is an internal desire where you keep coming up with the same idea over and over and you feel drawn to it... believe me when I say that your life will be incredibly fulfilled once you start going after it.

I have had this happen to me many times over the course of my short life, but the most recent example is with music. My whole life I have been saying, "I would love to write music. In another life I would be in a band." Why the hell would I hold myself back like that? Why would I deny myself that opportunity for no reason? What other life was I even talking about? As far as I know we only really have this one life and thats it.

So it took me 27 years to get to the point where I knew this was not something I wanted to look back on and have never even tried to pursue. I started writing songs. I got on craigslist, answered some really sketchy craigslist ads and eventually found someone to start making music with and let me tell you, it is thrilling and I love it. Are we making any money? No. Does it take a lot of my free time? Yes. Does any of that really matter? Not really.

All I want you to know is this:
If you want something, it's okay. I think you can do it. And you should.

More Self Indulgent Photos

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

I feel really lucky that Michael and I get to take so many photos. By now it is old hat, we run, we frolic, we hold hands, and we look damn good doing it. My friend Kirsten was visiting and she was generous enough to take these gorgeous pictures for us. They definitely capture this time in life for us. We life in Texas, its kind of green, but it is also kinda not. If you have been to Dallas, this just looks so Dallas. These were taken in Plano about 5 mins away from Michael's work. Also, he has shaved off his beard already and I am so happy that these capture that. He doesn't have a beard in any of our other photos. Thank you so much Kirsten! Check out her work here.


Monday, January 2, 2017

Setting a word of intention is something that I started last year with the word trust. While I don’t feel like it overwhelmingly impacted my life, I do feel that it made a difference in a few key areas. My word was True and I applied it in a couple of ways:

1. I felt like I listened to my gut more. I am beginning to have a clearer idea of what is important to me and what isn’t. When something doesn’t fit with my views instead of forcing it to, I am letting it go.

2. I was able to trust in the process. I started attending therapy this last year. I have known that it is something that I have needed to do for a long time, but always felt that paying someone $150 an hour to listen to me complain wasn’t worth it. I didn’t need it. Or so I thought. I have only been attending weekly for about three months but what a world of difference it has made. My head is clearer, I more fully understand the direction of life I want to take, and I am learning more everyday what I need to do to feel happy.

3. I am feeling more and more like Dallas is home. That one is a little bit of a stretch because is it really that I am trusting in some divine plan to put us here or is it just that we have friends/family now? Either way, I am counting it and it is good.

Overall, a good word for a good year.

For this year I had initially wanted to choose the word “health” to help focus more on both my emotional and physical health. I feel that is key for me this year. After some additional thinking I am decided to scratch it and choose the word “enough” pretty impulsively. We watched a minimalism documentary last week that really resonated with me and after I read this blog post today my decision was locked.

I am enough. I have enough. Enough enough enough.

So here we go 2017.