the timing of things

Thursday, November 19, 2015

There are a lot of people that ask about timing. The timing of our future plans and our life together.

If there is one thing that has been true for Michael and I’s relationship it is that anything that has to do with future plans is completely outside of our control. As the old saying goes, tell God your plans and listen to him laugh.

Right now we are in Dallas and if we are being totally honest- it isn’t our favorite.

Is it right? Sure. Is it super fun? Sometimes. Is this the place I want to live forever? Not yet.

We really thought that we would be in Chicago for a long long time. We dreamed of a condo in a cool part of town and accepted that tortuous winters were a part of our existence for the foreseeable future. But things changed. We felt so strongly that we needed to move so that is what we did. The city of concrete.

People ask us about kids. All. The. Time. The truth is that we both want kids, we really do want a family, but again with the whole timing thing. It’s not right. We know it. So again, our plans are turning out a little differently than we anticipated.

I don’t know what lies ahead. I don’t know where we will be in 10, 5, or even 3 years. I just have no freaking clue. But I am grateful that I have a teammate that is pretty much game for anything and that he has the capability to really chill me the hell out. Type A personality much?

So we talk about dreams and hopes and work towards those. While trying not to feel too much like failures as we see all the other people our age buying houses and having kids.

We are where we are and tomorrow is a fresh start.  


  1. I feel you, lady. I have no idea what I'm doing and nothing feels right half the time and then the other times the timing is off. Tis life. I guess...

  2. We ended up in Atlanta applying for jobs in Nashville and Phoenix near family. It has given us a lot of soul searching experiencing something we didn't necessarily imagine or even think we might want. I definitely relate. I really love the quote by Death Cab for Cutie when they say that "every plan is a prayer to Father Time" because nothing is really predictable!